She’s Pregnant! Now What?

Although your legal rights are limited, your influence is vitality important. Maybe she’s your girlfriend, maybe she isn’t. Either way, Your love and support can make all the difference for her and your child. Both of you have many decisions to make. Ultimately, she must make a decision with or without you. Here you will find some resources and suggestions on what to do during this situation. We also have resources and support for you as a father.

What to Know


She has the final say.
Legally, the woman has the final say in what happens with the pregnancy.

You are the father.
Legally, you are the father. Don’t be silent! Discuss the future for both of you and your baby with her. You should understand your rights and responsibilities in the scenarios of abortion, adoption, or parenting.

What to Do


Regardless of your relationship status, you’re both responsible. The more you listen to her concerns and worries, the more likely she will be willing to listen to you. Consider how she is feeling and what she is going through.  Do your best to show her you support her and that you are taking responsibility.  Your love and support for both of them will make all the difference. 


Find the Facts
Don’t leave questions unanswered or rush the decision-making process. This is one of the most important decisions you will ever make, so it’s important to find out the facts of the pregnancy and what each of your options entails. Take a deep breath, and make sure you and your partner, in this unplanned pregnancy, are exploring all your options and are aware that you have support.

Talk About It
It’s vital to talk about this situation and not back off avoiding discussion because you are afraid. Hiding it will only build tension in an already tense situation. Talk with her and whoever else you feel comfortable talking to. It might be hard to start the conversation, but it’s better than never having it at all. If you need someone to talk to we are here for you and can explain all of your options, what each entails and the resources we have for you and your family.

Express How You Feel
It’s likely she wants to know how you feel, but also allow her to do the same. Whether she expresses what she’s feeling or not, she needs your support. 

What Not to Do

Pressure Her
This will only push her away and cause her unneeded stress. She has to make this decision based on what’s best for her and her health. 

Bail on Her
If you run and hide during this time, you will lose an opportunity to be involved in the decisions and the situations that play out. You will only be left with the negative consequences of your own decision.

How We Can Help You

We have resources for you too! We have counselors who will talk to you and listen to you. We have educational resources to help you to understand pregnancy, options on how to move forward, parenting education and much more. Contact us for more information and an appointment.